Should turning 30 be looked at as a time of anxiety, or a potential for a change? I have been pondering this for a few months now and I am still coming up blank. I wasn't letting age bother me. I was perfectly fine with pursuing my goals of college and a career. I still want those things, but for the past couple of years, I have begun to evaluate the lessons that I have learned from my past relationships and realized that I want to be settling down and having a family. Then the anxiety starts to set in. I see most of my friends back home and those where I am currently living, and I feel this pang of jealousy. They have the husband or at least reliable boyfriend/significant other, and most of them have children. I have just started to realize how much I have this fear of ending up alone and not having my own family. I know that I still have time, but that doesn't mean that I don't worry just a little bit.
I'm sure that there are plenty of people out there who also feel the same as they approach turning 30 and that feeling is that of being conflicted. Turn left or right? Follow this dream or settle? Stay near family and friends or venture out and seek your own happiness in a new city? Go and get that career you long for or end up in a job that pays the bills? Will I get this college debt and car paid off soon? What if this? What if that? So many questions and possibilities that at times, it makes my head spin.
I found an article that sort of says some of the things that I am feeling. While I do not have all of the "signs," some of the words hit close to home, so to speak. It's in the Huffington Post and it's called "Turning 30: 12 Signs You're in Pre-30 Crisis." http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/02/20/turning-30-12-signs-youre_n_2724609.html#slide=2128613
There is some good advice from actress Olivia Wilde in an issue of Glamour: http://www.glamour.com/entertainment/2013/08/olivia-wilde-s-advice-for-turning-30.
She says basically to make the most of things and not to be pressured by society. I think that is good advice.
There are also plenty of other articles and movies talk about what a big deal it is to a lot of women to be turning 30. Some of them are negative and others positive. I am trying not to fret too much, but will definitely be taking things a day at a time. I feel that my destiny is not yet written and that once I have things flowing and I am more confident with myself, that I will have the things that I yearn for inside.
I'm sure that there are plenty of people out there who also feel the same as they approach turning 30 and that feeling is that of being conflicted. Turn left or right? Follow this dream or settle? Stay near family and friends or venture out and seek your own happiness in a new city? Go and get that career you long for or end up in a job that pays the bills? Will I get this college debt and car paid off soon? What if this? What if that? So many questions and possibilities that at times, it makes my head spin.
I found an article that sort of says some of the things that I am feeling. While I do not have all of the "signs," some of the words hit close to home, so to speak. It's in the Huffington Post and it's called "Turning 30: 12 Signs You're in Pre-30 Crisis." http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/02/20/turning-30-12-signs-youre_n_2724609.html#slide=2128613
There is some good advice from actress Olivia Wilde in an issue of Glamour: http://www.glamour.com/entertainment/2013/08/olivia-wilde-s-advice-for-turning-30.
She says basically to make the most of things and not to be pressured by society. I think that is good advice.
There are also plenty of other articles and movies talk about what a big deal it is to a lot of women to be turning 30. Some of them are negative and others positive. I am trying not to fret too much, but will definitely be taking things a day at a time. I feel that my destiny is not yet written and that once I have things flowing and I am more confident with myself, that I will have the things that I yearn for inside.
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