It's definitely true that while in a relationship (and shortly thereafter) you have the rose-colored glasses clouding your view. You may like the idea of being in a relationship with someone and focus more on their good points and memories. You fail to see the other person's faults and short-comings. Another thing that gets overlooked is how they treated you. In my case, the ones who I fall for the hardest, often do not treat me as well as I think. Most have played mind tricks on me, changed something about their personalities, failed to reveal skeletons in their closets, or were insanely jealous all of the time. Then there are other reasons that things do not work out. Sometimes it's in the looks category or even on a mental level... and maturity can play a big part. Then there are other that are just better left as friends. Yet again, don't ever buy it when a guy says that he just wants to be friends. I think it's time for me to go through the pros and cons of those I have dated to decide for myself what I really want out of a relationship. I know that no one is perfect and that tastes can change as you get older, but the basics don't change. Maybe I can also figure out what lessons they taught me along the way... in other words, what I have learned from having them in my life. First and foremost, I need to rediscover myself and what makes me happy without having a man in my life to date.
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